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Mas-turbation VS Coit-uS

There are topics which are kept hidden even in a century where there aren’t enough limitations, where the well-beloved super-io seems to be becoming a mere puppet in the hands-on ignorance.

One of the topics I want to treat here is the conception of masturbation as a substitute for sex, in particular, the role of the (sex) toy as a substitute for human presence.

For the majority of people, sexuality is desire and this one is understood merely like coitus. In reality, sexuality is just a concept, nothing more. When we say “sex” we go over centuries of narrative where scientists and medics were standardizing humankind’s understanding of pleasure.
In a few words, desire is yourself.

Generalizing a bit, people experience desire through mutual manipulation, stimulation and, in rare cases, ecstatic multi-senses relationships, with other humans; though, humans get pleasure by projecting desire through and by bodies.

In the capitalistic view of desire, even the most powerful sensory experience is reduced to an object. This situation contributed to mixing up the conceptualization of masturbation as a substitute for coitus. It is well known that in the past centuries people were happy to enjoy their pleasure with several mechanisms, situations and even with the help of toys; however, eroticism as “masturbation” was not a mere product of pleasure or sublimation of the wild instinct of copulation, rather was an experience without limitations nor related psychosis.

Coming back to our days, it is interesting how the sex toy is taking over the mere body presence of the others. The strongest pleasure experienced during toy masturbation (because of the high technology behind the sex item)/ is obscuring the need for the presence.

What are we missing here?

There is no miss. This is the nowadays reality, made by non-presence connections, high-tech sensory experiences always more close to the actual reality. Perhaps we are missing just one thing: we are missing the “self”, the consciousness. It is not whether you use a plastic toy or a penis or vagina attached to a body… Even those could be a “toy”. What we are missing is the understanding of ourselves, our being. Once the self is fully aware of itself in space and time we can experience the others’ selves in full harmony.

The multi-senses experience is strongly linked to self-awareness.

Put the case that a woman/man buys a toy capable not only to stimulate the vagina-clitoris-penis but also “simulating” in a way never experienced before (humans to humans) Here we have a miss. We are missing the senses, the warm feelings, the natural smoothness, fragrance, the taste and the “mutual agreements”. Yes, when two or more selves are together they can create the experience itself.

In absence of conscience, technology arises. In absence of self-consciousness, masturbation is the sublimation of coitus and not multi-sensorial-self-referential-experience.

It is evident how the self-gratification by an external “being that it is not self” (ontological difference?) is not reducible to a mere pleasure but a various dynamics rooted in our cultural order. The so-called object, that is mine, is the new projection of perfection. Thus, the human body becomes a commodity, commodifying itself for the sake of the moment. In that particular moment, just the deep breath, the heart rating and the veracious flux of dopamine give the Self its satisfaction.

Neither the object nor the act itself (called masturbation) can replace the coitus. Perhaps, what “we” have experienced was the real love that we cannot find with others.

There is no link between self-experience-of-pleasure and shared-feral-titillating of coitus.
The two experiences are two different worlds that should not be mixed up nor devalued against the sacred-that-is-not coitus.

Finally, the plastic toy can’t replace the human’s flesh as the human’s genital exercise can’t be replaced by the self-hypnotic-titillation.
The experience of pleasure is a unique way to reach the awareness of the self and the world around us.

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A prolegomenon to a new managerial phenomenology


The concept of “hypocritical behavior” refers to a specific way of being, traceable to a unique profile: the manager.
The word manager is confusing. Everyone is a manager, every living being manages something, things and people, every object or conscience among them. In a peculiar situation, the word manager becomes fundamental: the workspace.
There are diverse dynamics to consider, in particular those affecting the consciences, in other words, the people. The stage of this specific situation is the office.
Managing is not an easy task, even more, when the “manager” is called to cope with people and projects, two different worlds with multiple variables, totally different from each other. The “hypocritical behaviour” is the answer to this distress, the inability to manage the two worlds with excellence, the overall confusion between conscience and object. Faced with this situation, the “weak agent” (the hypocritical manager) develops psychological distress that affects his job and, accordingly, the general public consideration.
In this introduction to the “new managerial phenomenology,” I analyze the first manifestation of that distress, the phenomenon that describes the failure of an excellent work environment and workforce in particular.

This is a philosophical article. Yes, someone may feel offended or may think the author is a gossiper. This article doesn’t want to teach you anything, it is just a tool for reflecting on a situation that everyone is experiencing.
It is about management and work-life, and yes, it is not about business, marketing and frozen standardized advice we read every day in the socials.
This is a painting, framed by happiness and sorrow.

1. The hypocritical person as the agent of social malaise.

In the professional world, the hypocritical attitude gives rise to a self-negative-response that psychologically annihilates the agent of that attitude. The consequences are devastating, both for the person who propagates falsehood and for the one who receives it. Ultimately, both individuals annihilate each other by ending their career paths in anguish and frustration.

1.1 The hypocritical leader

The hypocrisy is not merely falsehood but a defensive attitude of the weak individual.
Here I consider two main ways.

1. Falsehood: the propagation of trifles to facilitate the management of individuals.
2. Malice: the destructive dynamic of the weak ego towards individuals, aimed at strengthening one’s superiority to legitimize one’s illusory competence.

The second self-righteous way is the most common and denotes a deeper personality disorder.
Representations of this malaise are, among other things:

a. Loquacity
b. Exhibitionism
c. Gnoseological ego-centrism

Loquacity. This manifestation of malaise appears as an involuntary propensity for dialogue, often disjointed and rapid. The flow of words comes out naturally but vehemently.

In the workplace, exhibitionism denotes insecurity. This has been proven several times but it is worth analyzing in detail one of the many phases of this problem.
Usually associated with eroticism, intellectual exhibitionism is widespread. In the office context, the exhibitionist likes to be the centre of attention, loves various meetings and does not rationalize waste (time and money). The only aim is to prevail over the other by manifesting intellectual superiority (gnoseological ego-centrism) and mastery of self.
Oftentimes, this attitude is accompanied by other degenerative factors such as, first of all, malice.
Having outlined, on a large scale, the Hypocritical personality in the workplace, a conclusion is due.
The hypocrite seeks comfort and help. Paradoxically, this aid manifests itself in the annihilation of the other, as a sacrificial process, a fallacious metaphysical transfer of personality.
From the point of view of “others”, control, calm and empathy are the necessary conditions for dealing with the negative energy produced by the hypocrite. Dialogue can help, disinterested, free, possibly outside the workplace. Audits by supervisory bodies are also necessary. Human Resources must carefully evaluate these attitudes and apply new rules or enforce existing ones, optimizing time and space.
Finally, everyone has the right to give feedback, especially during the various sessions where such attitudes occur. A lack of feedback affects the problem itself, often turning it into a chronic one, damaging the entire working environment and the workforce.
One person is always responsible for the success and decline of an entire organization.

It is clear that the delusional person excels in practical knowledge and denotes a worrying lack of managerial skills.

1.2 The hypocritical individual as an agent of social and individual success

It is well known that a positiveness mindset is beneficial for everybody; it is also well known that a successful mindset is unique in its particular way of phenomenological disclosure. Every interpersonal connection is based on energies and it is driven and conditioned by minds(et). Between two individuals exists a volume of forces that fight against each other creating harmony. Far from the state of nature, those forces are not aiming to annihilate the other but, on the contrary, to aid its development, its existence: thanks to the other I exist.
A workforce is an agglomeration of existences. A workspace is a stage where those existences become and develop. A manager is an individual empowered by others to “manage” existences.

2. Game – Stages, Mind – Set, Match – Aetiology of a failure

It is noted that a positive mindset is beneficial for everybody; it is also well known that a successful mindset is unique in its particular way of phenomenological disclosure. Every interpersonal connection is based on energies and it is driven and conditioned by minds(et) Between two individuals exists a volume of forces that fight against each other creating harmony. Far from the state of nature, those forces are not aiming to annihilate the other but, on the contrary, to aid its development, its existence: Thanks to the other I exist.

2.1 The Chemical Wedding of the Manager and the subordinate

A workforce is an agglomeration of existences. A workspace is a stage where those existences become and develop. A manager is an individual empowered by others to “manage” existences. Yes, we spend almost 11 years of our life (information based on the life span of 78 years old, God Bless!) working, giving our time to someone’s else interest. And we have “the managers”, individuals with knowledge and skills to train/coach and inspire other individuals. Most of the time, the subordinate (yes, it is a bad word/concept, isn’t it? But it is the right one!) is the one inspiring the manager but this is not important, it is not reported into a spreadsheet or on a dusty org chart.
Assuming that the manager is inspiring the subordinate: what is happening there? Two people are connecting, sharing their life through words, signs and gazes; there are much more, but the natural aspects of our being are frustrating, aren’t they? We smell sympathy and we taste hate. We are animals. Specifically, we are worst than animals, we experience feelings of malice, spite, envy and we throw them into the others. Every workspace is an example of success, we love to celebrate others covering ourselves with praise and glory; at the same time, the workspace is an example of distress, shame, misbehavior and competition. Sadly, the latest example is the most common and it often happens between managers and subordinates.

2.2 Training or the guillotine pendulum

Despite several pieces of training (attitudinal) delivered by corporations to employees, all the teachings start and end in the classroom; just outside that, everything vanishes. Who cares anymore. Sharing training’ accomplishments, attendances and certificates of expertise are the best part of the learning journey: finally, people can exhibit their value, as a process of self-satisfaction.
A boost of dopamine for the weak manager (hypocritical manager) who needs outer recognition due to the lack of inner skills and abilities. This attitude is so ingrained in the mindset that, even the action of developing others is based on shining and showing and not in doing and doing: the purpose of the job has become showing not delivering.
This approach is unproductive, doesn’t inspire nor develop people.
We have seen how hypocritical behavior impacts the consciences and how affects the same. By developing a sense of competition with delusional achievement, the hypocritical manager clouds the subordinates’ consciences generating frustrations, despair and anger. All the teachings learnt by the manager are printed on a piece of paper while the inner self is still blank as endless night.

2.3 Inspiring by delivering

Right after the training, it is time to put the learning into practice: inspiring. Besides the uncommon situation where a person is fully aware of himself (and now the question: why is **** managing others?) inspiration is the main purpose of the management. Let the person be is the final goal. Busy over numbers and trends, we lose the fact that there is a consciousness and needs to be fed. There are two main ways that can facilitate the awakening and the unveiling of the self.

I. Silence – words are spoken loudly – silently. When the consciences are linked the words are useless; the first step for a strong connection is gazing and waiting for the flow. The wording process is the final step of counseling: Let the others speak through silence.

II. Free Association – it is commonly known that questioning is the other way of achieving results. Basically, this was initiated by Socrates a long time ago and this is truly true; however, it is not the nature of the question to make the difference, but the freely speaking of the other without an apparent reason. Sounds weird? it is. Connecting the dots and interpreting the free associations is what denotes the main difference between a project and a people manager.

2.4 Project Machina Vs Desiring Machine – The Final Match

Great confusion prevails in managers’ and employees’ minds concerning the hundreds of roles and responsibilities of the single individuals; too many names, codes, anachronisms, for sure all of those don’t make it any easier. Despite everything, here I want to clarify a simple but fundamental distinction between two types of managers: The Project-Machina Vs the Desiring Machine.

2.5 Project Vs Anima

Project Machina. This may sound titanic, a weird huge creature made by circuits, lights, emitting weird noises; simply, I am referring to that manager who dedicates his efforts to handling anything but the souls. Dealing with an “Anima” is not an easy task. Anima means mind, of course, and everything beyond that: unconsciousness and all the relative emotions that flow from the same.
Moreover, when dealing with Anima you cope with a reactive and dynamic system that attacks and challenges its same nature, the manager’s anima.
When dealing with a static system, even complex and challenging, it is not Anima. It is dynamic in its staticity. Anima is the only “situation” where everything happens and from which everything is generated. Any approach with Anima is different; Anima answers in a way that the paper or a number don’t.

Desiring Machine: who decides to deal with a soul, simply a person, goes on a mission, sometimes without an easy return, luckily unsuccessful. As it is obvious, there are “sciences” that have tried to incorporate in a system the desires and the forces of humankind. They are still trying but how many issues…still. A responsive “machine” cannot be standardized, put into the process: every individual is unique in his particularity.

2.6 The pitfalls

When the individuals are forced to the positivity, they hide negative feelings. Loading anxiety and despair unconsciously, to the end. This attitude is generally evident, especially in the corporations’ environment where positiveness is an advantage of the system. At the first sight, the individuals think that everything is on the right track, their development, their well-being and happiness. what’s the reaction?

The Delusional Knight

This type of individual is not affected by the general hypocrisy that hovers over the heads. Quite often, the delusional knight seems to bear the distress in disguise due to his well-managed mindset, created and formed in the same environment, This fact allows the individual to passively accept the reality, not knowing another one.

The disillusioned One and the sad ending

Doesn’t matter where a person has lived, which trainings he’s attended or where he’s worked, the disillusioned one is, awake and aware.
He is able to see behind the curtains that hide negative intentions.
What’s negative? Lies.
Making people happy is a work strategy, where happiness is introjected not donated. The disillusioned becomes aware of the actual situation when the first sign of anxiety and stress appears. The malaise and distress start to affect the performances of the individual and accordingly the behavior. He is not positive anymore, highly critical. Even if they have not lost their professionalism, the “dull” minds do not accept those manners pointing the same as “no complaint”. What’s the standard? The same that formed the hypocritical managers, the delusional knights and the ones that hold the entire organization.
They say the coaching is the key to the “rebirth” of the prodigal son; but actually, this is like psychotherapy that gives you the impression of healing by bringing you back to the path of power. The healing is like a spanking to a capricious child. Come back to life, come back to happiness.

No, I didn’t generalize, but yes…it does exist.

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Ex-pulsion, or the lightness of the soul

Refraining from doing something is a great act of courage; the tendency towards doing something, means being aware of an instinct, almost out of control, that lead us to act in a certain way; The most famous is the sexual one, a voluptuous drive that reminds us our natural-nature. Despite our effort to hide our origin, mostly with old and anachronistic gimmicks, our natural nature is that and still celebrated with shameless pleasure.

Coming back to our act of denying: is that difficult to refrain ourselves to act impulsively? The answer is yes. Beyond the great “courage” it needs a self-restain over the average, a well-ignored self-consciousness.

We do not have formal learning on this topic, moreover, the same educators are ignorant (alas, free from any generalizations) Anyway, there remains only the old concept that wants to link the sexual instinct to the “love” (kiss-coitus-kids-family) of which the outcome (or the product? – the kid?) is often an accidental thing/being.

By flying over the related ethic, what does imply to refrain from a pulsion?
Anguish (?) Tedium (?) Painful somatic implications, partially generated by psychic dynamics. Refraining from an everyday act generated by a pulsion is the first stage of detoxification needed. We can compare this (long) process with the detoxification from psychotropic substances; it takes time and it is the first devastating act. Fortunately, the first step is almost exclusive and the following ones are less traumatic.

Getting free from a habit (vice) linked to an instinct is critical; in fact, being (us) alive because, in a drive conflict, the balance (human management of the instinct – the engine of such acts) is fundamental.

What happens in the case of a pulsational balance/imbalance? (Let’s swap impulse with lust – since the most common instincts are linked to voluptuousness)

The being shows itself in his totality, awake, shrewd, infinitely present in its presence. The balance creates a total harmony that embraces the soul, the psyche and the whole body (slave of both dimensions, never a master).
And it is precisely by this dialectic dynamic of the contraries that a pulsion becomes life-mine, giving spiritual energy, the body’s engine and of those neuron-activities.

When the balance stops, the soul falls in the whole black: the body becomes the object of involuntary spasms, unconscious as a carrier agent of noetic activities of ontological destruction. In this desperate step, being the prey of the instinct, the human being loses control of its small existence becoming a mere object in its unconscious’ hands.
Psyche: of which neuronal energy becomes atomic, uncontrolled, explosive. Mind: now disjoint from the whole human, lost in its uncontrollable games, where the sense of the things around doesn’t have meaning, anymore (and with that the time/space concept itself)

It can be called panic, anxiety or anguish. It lasts a few seconds, years not measurable. The long-awaited satisfaction is finally conquered. It has generated dissatisfaction and misery: what we have long desired has just become our most hated thought.

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La Desolazione dell’Io e l’Essere svelato – Italian Version – Feat. John Currin

Esibizionismo: corpi e menti, insieme, nella totalita’ dell’indifferenza cosciente. Nello specchio si guarda l’angoscia.

Molte parole, conversazioni e sguardi senza connessioni – perso dentro se stesso, lui stesso, lei. ({}{})
Tra la massa – solitudine. ({}{}) è solo.

Coc mostra quello che ({}{}) possiede, pensa che sia unico – Illusione.
Parole come mammelle, fianchi come vocali parlate e glutei come consonanti. Le frasi di ({}{}), i successi di ({}{}) nelle stesse parole di ({}{}) – Illusione.

({}{}) prova davvero piacere mostrandosi? Il corpo corrisponde alle sue ({}{}) parole? Sta cercando una ricompensa, globale?

Resta (il {}{}) migliore. A Nessuno importa.


L*Amore Solitario
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II. Panicnoia – Italian Version

Il sole riscalda la mia carne, la vertigine mi sbaraglia.

Voglio che la luna si scontri contro l’oscuro sfondo dei miei incubi; Nessuna stella, solo la luna, nel cielo, sola, desolata.

Provo a muovermi, i piedi sono incollati al suolo. Non mi muovo. Dentro?

Sangue, percosse, pensieri. Parestesia, xerostomia, idrocefalo.

Sento zone del mio corpo pulsare come vulcani pronti a esplodere:

D e S O L a z i o N e

Nessuno dentro di me, la mia anima non mi parla…chi sono?

Mi guardo, adesso. Si.

Tocco le mie mani, le mie braccia…parestesia.

Alzo le braccia, che sforzo! Ma le mie mani sono vuote…


Ogni passo avanti, un ricordo.
Voglio tornare bambino, spensierato, e mi guardo riflesso dentro ogni cosa mentre tutti guardano me. Arranco senza meta.
Dove sono?

Tutte quelle facce, quegli occhi mi guardano…sono un insetto paralizzato sul pavimento di colla.

Questo è ridicolo. È la fine.


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I. Panicnoia – Italian Version

Le mie gambe invisibili mentre vago tra le nuvole. Il passo incerto fatalmente verso la rovina. Bagnato di sudore, la vista annebbiata, tante facce, amici mai.

Barcollo, un’altra strana sensazione di morte; l’assaporo. L’aria è satura di angoscia. Stordito titillo le mie estremità, posso sentirlo nelle mie ossa; è il momento.

Il rumore che mi avvolge è solo mio.
Quelle risate, quelle facce, non sono consapevoli della verità, vero?
La loro?

Un altro passo, l’ultimo pensiero


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Love beyond the mere concept of affection. Brief rumination on the concept of desire – Feat. E. Schiele


Desire is the key concept of this article, so, no apologies for the repetition!

Meditation I – Sturm und Drang

In every representation of the (my/ours) reality, some objects and facts stand out miraculously: the fact that I am here, now and the object that is my body.
I have always thought that my presence in the world is a mere fact present to myself, that my being among others, even better, among objects, is a relation purely subjective.
During those ruminations, I used to touch myself, feeling the present that is mine towards my conscience, connecting the dots of my being with those of the others of outer space, not mine. During those moments, I realized that I was alive and I was a sad object called a living being.
Among objects and beings – two different experiences. Each connection with those entities is a pure matter of sadness and desperation. Being among objects was a sign of mere mortality, here and now, the cold touch of the pure non-being; while, being among the beings was always a conflict, a fight for reproduction.
All my thoughts about myself and the world around me were conveyed to one point – the desire.

Desire – the lonely sing of the desperation

I (for not saying “we”) desire because of an innate instinct of reproduction. I have always thought that desiring was a mere human fact but with the following experiences I have realized that I was just a mammal.
The concept of love is the sweetener of the pure wild desire.
At the same time, I have noticed that love is an interesting experience: from one side, it shows our nature as human beings, from the other it shows our remote belonging to wild nature.
As human beings, we can think abstract and create concepts; therefore, we’ve created the concept of love to disguise the wild instinct of desire. At the same time, love represents the pure willingness to cooperate and support, typical in a lot of species on this planet: thus, we share this beautiful concept with all beings.
By referring to this brief reasoning, I admit my origin and the conflict that it is purely mine as a human being.

The paranoid impulse

We have explained how love doesn’t match completely with desire. The fact that we desire is not a matter of love, but instinct. For desire, I mean any attractions to the others being.
Almost our life is driven by desire. In every connection, we are unconsciously guided by the primordial lewd desire. This is not a negative vision of the life/world but a mere consideration of the nature of our being. As humans, we have developed the ability to sufferer without being afflicted by it; however, under the thick layer of our conscience, we know we are lost in the dark circle of instinct.
I won’t write more about that, I just give you time and space to think about your current situation together with that of your fellow people and living being.

The paramount conflict

In every connection/relationship we can see a latent conflict. I don’t mean that our life is based on conflict since our life is among others, however, as part of nature the answer is clear, implied.
How can we overcome this situation? Of course, for many, that is not an issue, their life is going well, full of love and happiness; but what about your inner being? how can we become real humans against wild desires and habits? Nature, instinct and wild habits are not the absolute negative, not at all; but they are impediments to the fulfillment of certain souls not able to overcome that inner and rooted dimension.
By overcoming the instinct we can be the owner of ourselves, successful and fulfilled.
This is/was just a meditation. The way? go and find that out by yourself.


I was still blind, but twinkling stars did dance Throughout my being’s limitless expanse, Nothing had yet drawn close, only at distant stages I found myself, a mere suggestion sensed in past and future ages.

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EroAnGst – Feat. G. F. Watts

He was concentrating on his breathing 
While the last beat of his heart was fading away

He was still there dived into his desire.
A breath, a memory of her smell.

Powerful sensation straight into his senses
where the little details of his life were exploding in a myriad of regrets

She was crying on her knees right after another disappointment,
Ruminating on her solitude

She wasn’t there, standing under the storm, alone.
Seated on the sidewalk along the road to her desparation

Weak sensations straight into her senses
Where the regrets of her dying desires were imploding into her delusion

Forever apart
Nowhere together


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II. Panicnoia – Feat. A. Bloch

The sun warms my flesh, my lighted head spins fast.
I want the moon against the dark background of my nightmares.
No stars, just the moon, up in the sky, alone, desolated.

I try to walk but my feet are glued to the spot. I do not move. Inside, am I moving? 
Blood, beats, thoughts. My tongue is tingling, my mouth is dry, my head is exploding.

I feel places in my body pumping out like Vulcans covered up ready to erupt.

D E S O L A T I O N 

Nobody inside me, my soul is not talking to me. Who am I?
I am looking at me, yes… Right now. I am touching these hands, arms but I don’t feel myself.
I move my arms up, great boulders, but my hands are empty.


Every Step forward, one thought backwards towards the origin.
I want to be little, thoughtless, careless of myself and the world around me.
I see myself into everything, everyone is watching me while I stumble aimlessly.

Where am I?

All those faces, all those eyes staring at me… I am an insect paralyzed on a glue-covered floor.

That’s funny, it is the end.


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I. Panicnoia – Feat. P. Klee

I. Prelude

My legs are invisible while I walk on the clouds.
The next step is uncertain, slowly towards the next falling one.
Wet with sweat, my sight is blurred, many faces, enemies in disguise.

I stagger to my feet, another weird feeling of death. I can taste it, the air is saturated with anguish. Numbness, tingling in extremities – I can feel it into my bones. This is the time.

The noise around is the only mine; that laughter, happy faces unaware of the truth: theirs?

Another step, last thought.